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12 Things That Ruin a First Impression Immediately

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Scientists have proven that we form our first impression about someone within the first 7 seconds of meeting them, and 55% of the first impression is based on appearance. Pay attention to 12 common things you should avoid not to ruin the first impression. In his research, psychologist William F. Chaplin found that people with a weak handshake are instantly judged as being shy, anxious, uninterested, or even completely incompetent. If you place your hands on the table, don’t squeeze them too tight or lay them flat with your palms down. This makes people feel like you want to control them. Also, don’t forget about the role that culture plays here. A 2007 study showed that people who maintain eye contact during a conversation are often seen as more confident, attentive, intelligent, and trustworthy. Try not to focus the conversation only on yourself and your issues. It’s always a good idea to be attentive to your conversation partner. Tapping can indicate nervousness, irritation, or impatience. People might even think that you’re purposely trying to irritate others or draw attention to yourself. And while cracking your knuckles can help relieve stress, it’s one of the most annoying sounds according to a survey by The New York Times. A study from the University of Essex showed that even just having one’s phone on the table next to them reduces a conversation’s quality and the participants’ engagement. So leave it in your bag or in your pocket. Running late to a meeting with people you don’t know or have a formal relationship with will shed a guaranteed negative light on you. You’ll seem like an unreliable and unorganized person that doesn’t respect people enough to value their time. Music: About That Oldie Vibe Tracks Josefina Quincas Moreira Merengue de Limon Quincas Moreira Pink Lemonade Silent Partner https://www.youtube.com/audiolibrary/music TIMESTAMPS A weak handshake 0:38 Keeping your hands in the wrong position 1:25 Chewing gum 2:15 Avoiding eye-contact 3:01 Playing with your hair 3:41 Picking the wrong conversation topics 4:25 Invading someone’s personal space 5:07 Making distracting noises 5:49 Constantly checking your phone 6:34 Forgetting people’s names 7:23 Being late 8:00 The wrong attire 8:47 SUMMARY -If you wanna give the right impression of confidence and capability, remember to grip the other person’s hand firmly and for no longer than 2 seconds. -Put your hands on your lap if you want, but never keep them in your pockets because this gives the impression that you’re hiding something. -Chewing on gum makes you look immature, self-centered, and somewhat low-brow. -Don't be afraid to lock eyes with another person from time to time instead of constantly looking around, especially when you meet them for the first time. -If you tend to play with your hair when you’re nervous, try to kick this habit, you could be sending them the wrong message. -Play it safe and avoid the general “taboo” topics out there. They include health problems, money, religion, politics, or personal problems and complaints. -When it comes to meeting someone for the first time, keep a minimum of 4 feet between the two of you. -It can be nearly impossible to control nervous tapping, but you have to try, especially during important meetings or presentations. -Even if you’re just checking the time on your screen, it comes off as extremely impolite when you do it during a conversation. -Immediately repeate someone’s name after you’ve been introduced. In case you forget the name, just play it cool and try to avoid using phrases where you have to name the other person. -Leave your house in enough time so that you don’t have to run to your meeting. You’ll be all disheveled and unfocused, and that looks bad too. -If you’re meeting somebody for the very first time, again, especially in more formal situations, try to be conservative in your choice of clothing, be polished, and don’t use heavy perfume or tons of makeup. Subscribe to Bright Side : https://goo.gl/rQTJZz ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Our Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brightside/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brightgram/ 5-Minute Crafts Youtube: https://www.goo.gl/8JVmuC ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- For more videos and articles visit: http://www.brightside.me/
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BRIGHT SIDE (6 months ago)
TIMESTAMPS A weak handshake 0:38 Keeping your hands in the wrong position 1:25 Chewing gum 2:15 Avoiding eye-contact 3:01 Playing with your hair 3:41 Picking the wrong conversation topics 4:25 Invading someone’s personal space 5:07 Making distracting noises 5:49 Constantly checking your phone 6:34 Forgetting people’s names 7:23 Being late 8:00 The wrong attire 8:47
Dokpun Kutum (2 days ago)
*Your Timestamps and Summary in the description box are pretty useful*
dalip singh (22 days ago)
3:01 no. 9 ?
Johnry Almento (1 month ago)
U
Johnry Almento (1 month ago)
Ali Adnan (1 month ago)
+Geetha K im your first like I think 😉😉😉😉😉😉
Kenny Patrick Cogen (2 days ago)
Hmmm... I think it is VERY rude to keep your hands under a table. It shows me someone is trying to hide something or is lying.
Sebastian Roy (6 days ago)
I dnt think folding arms on the table is considered rude in India
Adus Teewee (8 days ago)
Being smelly, making a bad choice of what you wear according to the event you walk in
moshfiqur chowdhury (9 days ago)
Poking nose, nervous coughing ..
maribel tenedero (11 days ago)
Look its first impressions first. I think people who just looked onto first impressions by the moves , gush they such an ignorance haha! Peace. Be natural so that you won't be feeling inside the pocket cos maybe we knew how to be nice on formality or informal. I am sure , It's depends the characteristics and understanding of the person looking to a person also.
moist faucet (11 days ago)
"...why I need to be attracted, i am married with 2 kids..." AL bundy. 1985
Troy Norris (12 days ago)
vocabulary choice, using vulgarities can ruin first impressions; also using words that are above the situation in order to draw attention to ones intelligence can be off-putting to others.
Mayank Kumar (12 days ago)
👍
P. J. Dlamini (13 days ago)
You forget to mention readying comments while listening this video.
Karen Wright (13 days ago)
I like this
MARIO de ANGOLA (15 days ago)
# 3 Forgetting people's names is horrible...
Kenisha Coward (16 days ago)
A next impression is : BAD BREATH!!!!!!
Sysop 22 (13 days ago)
and smelling of smoke - UH!
Life Of Many Colours (16 days ago)
Insan azad hai ye jhot sun sun kay kaan paak gye hain...khak azad a bhai logo ma tu keta hun duniya ma wo sab karo jo tum logo ko acha laga ye duniya kotay ki dom ki tara hai na ye teerha hogi or na ye sida...aik dosry mind impression zabardasti gosaye ja raye han Danishmandi k nam pey lanat ho esy danishmandi pey...ma wai krta hun jo mere man ko pasand ho phr chaye pichaye koi Aristotle khaye ya bewaqof fark ni parhta...jismani ghulam bardsh kr lunga lkn damgi ghulami kbi nhi.
Nargis mayel (17 days ago)
This video is really similar to your another video HOW TO MAKE GREAT IMPRESSION
Isha Kawade (17 days ago)
I think folding hands also depicts negativity in a job interview
Johnell Kerr (18 days ago)
Lol Period!
Tesfay Kinfe (19 days ago)
Showing too much pride as you greet people for the first time will also do lots of harm to the first impression.
spideraxis (20 days ago)
Bad breath is another no-no.
Punit Meena (23 days ago)
It's NOT RUDE to put your hand on the table in India,Bright Side should get their facts right ffs P.S unless you're dozing off and using your hand as a support..😂
Amsaraj Palanisamy (24 days ago)
The best ever solution...
Modern Username (25 days ago)
who still watches them because I do
Edgar Haro (26 days ago)
You also forgot to say excuse me or pardon when trying to move past some one, and you also forgot to mention to say thank you because that is the most important thing for everyone and anything. Thank you bright side!
Edgar Haro (26 days ago)
I think the only thing you forgot to mention was to stand up right. Someone who stands confidently upright with their chest up in their hands by their sides are always seem to be like they’re confident and in charge and know what they’re doing even into scenarios when they don’t know what they’re doing. Other than that I really enjoy these tips and I kind a new at all of them already. Thank you bright side
Yoasef Tamer (26 days ago)
Excellent....
Elior Idida (29 days ago)
I read in this book once to come up with a phrase or a rhyme related to the person's name your'e trying to remember, it works pretty well for me. I think people should also write the persons name done with a simple phrase or rhyme as such too in case the latter comes to failure
Szusikakutyuska (30 days ago)
I already feel the incoming cringe.
Lavanya Bandi (1 month ago)
If interviewer is left handed person and interviewee is right handed how will they make shake hand. Can u pls explain
Very useful video
Igor Polak (1 month ago)
3 519 132 views! WOW
Vangelis Michalopoulos (1 month ago)
the body language can 'say' lot but actions speak louder!!!
Johnson Kids (1 month ago)
Do whatever you want just be yourself who care what people think
Lakhwinder Singh (1 month ago)
Good👍👍👍👍
Meherban Ali (1 month ago)
But i am shy and anxious
Radha Krishnan (1 month ago)
🙂 my look
Johnry Almento (1 month ago)
😀so smart
Gio Bravo (1 month ago)
“Picking the wrong conversations” my life LOL
Ralsei fluffy boi (1 month ago)
Cot en 0:29
Leo D (1 month ago)
4:52 boom roasted
qwerty (1 month ago)
Bad breath
Barbie Necia Films (1 month ago)
Bad attitude
Sunny Boy (1 month ago)
Im fogetting many peoples name...a looooooooooooots of times 😅😶
ubed khan (1 month ago)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZw6wRp7BGo&list=PLtMMdSqG5RhzOdVCh-sMnxBN3qhYrXPbV
Sunil Channel /vlog (1 month ago)
Hair style🙏🙏
Popcorn Wizard (1 month ago)
With other people I'm scared to look them in the eye I find it intimmerdating
girish n (1 month ago)
Very informative. Thanks
Harjanto Harjanto (1 month ago)
Do you still talking these as tips today???? Come on! Please
V IP (1 month ago)
I like the boots on the woman tapping her feet. Oh & the pink bag ! None of the things mentioned on this list bother me or annoy me when I meet someone for the first time ! I guess I'm just used to all of it too much to even really notice it much. I tend to try to understand & grasp the inner self of people. Am I just weird or something ?... no don't answer that question ! 😀❤️
Henry Ducard (1 month ago)
I am not confident for eye contact timing!
Mohmmed Adil (1 month ago)
0:28 am I the only one who always skip this part?
Deepak Tiwari (1 month ago)
Love from india🇮🇳🇮🇳
Shashwata Malakar (1 month ago)
To make a good impression on viewers, show poop at the beginning of the video!!
Dhanya Shree (1 month ago)
I think in 1.55 1st picture he looks very confident but 2nd one he looks very nurvous......but you gave green right mark there😂😂👍
Dipen Dhakal (1 month ago)
listen to him/her as you listening the most important things ....
Anandan Sundaram (1 month ago)
Making eye contact makes me feel shy, and I don't like making eye contact. It makes me feel weird. Like if you do so too.
Anandan Sundaram (1 month ago)
I need them to remind me their name like 3 times to remember. If it's a new name then I would want somebody to remind me.
Hello World (1 month ago)
WHO ELSE CHEWS HAIR WHILE PLAYING WITH THEIR GUM? Read More
Hello World (1 month ago)
Gotcha
Me Me (1 month ago)
My Impression:DO NOT SPEAK TO ANYONE got it? 😂
Raj Vardhan (1 month ago)
Using mobile
Shyam Sreenivasan (1 month ago)
The moment u talked about where u keep ur hands during an interview and that , a particular way is offensive in INDIA, I can presume that u are blabbering without knowing the facts!
Mayuri Dutta (1 month ago)
0.38
Ankit Shukla. (1 month ago)
Speaking Skills?.....
RJ thana (1 month ago)
Super, very useful information♥♥♥
Kesh Nightcore (1 month ago)
Thank You Bright Side♥️
Sohail Abed Aziz (1 month ago)
How do u edit ur videos??
Winterhold CoastGuard (1 month ago)
I always keep my hands at my side
What if I am playing with someone's hair, not mine?)))))) Is this behaviour irritating?..
Micheal Chythlook (1 month ago)
im not a person who believes in first impressions its like a quick to judge
Jsks s (1 month ago)
Very true!
Mayckon Wolf (1 month ago)
I don't know man,I scare people if I look them in the eyes more them 5 seconds, I'm a good guy but I don't know why my look intimate others, I'm a martial artist,a fighter,I don't know what is but I scare people to death,if I look them in the eyes these people will want end conversation and run away and I will feel bad cause I'm not a evil person,I will never hurt or make something evil since I'm self defense instructor,I live to help people defend themselves not to hurt,but is it if I look in the eyes I will scare this person and make her feel bad and leave,so I prefer avoid contact,only if the person know me very well I will look to them without avoid.
Mr freaky (1 month ago)
Mayckon Wolf only insecure people would be scared of eye contact
Tonia N.G (1 month ago)
who feel like smiling?
Tonia N.G (1 month ago)
wao, great tracher carry on!!!
Mayckon Wolf (1 month ago)
👍
Having eaten garlic?
Mastergirl 18pro (1 month ago)
Whats OCD?
Bharat Pant (1 month ago)
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder - A type of mental disorder.
Romil Chhetri (1 month ago)
Fumbling 😶
Jordan Capacia (1 month ago)
thanks I learn a lot.
Breyanna Wynn-Nichols (1 month ago)
Breath smell
Kanye East (1 month ago)
I'd add bad breath.
David Richards (1 month ago)
As far as I’m concerned, never judge anyone by first impressions
Mystery Secret (1 month ago)
I'm bad at remembering names... :(
C'moon.. Everybody knows ...that.
Aabriel Molinas (1 month ago)
1:28 who else is dancing to the music or it’s just me..
Rakib Hassan Avi (1 month ago)
Thank you for your kind that information. 😊
Personal hygiene
Harikrishnan Av (1 month ago)
2
Hawa N (1 month ago)
Having patience and meditation before and after any interview or meeting a new discussion or debate...This makes the person comfortable if it happens again ..😀😀
HUY HÙNG BẠCH (2 months ago)
nice
Luminadho Lavea (2 months ago)
Brush your teeth
dj Sam (2 months ago)
The way u talk them
dsfguhb gamer (2 months ago)
Why interview in company is so important ?
SensiRippah420 (2 months ago)
Stank breath, how can you possibly miss the stank breath?
Rameez Suhail (2 months ago)
Forgetting names is my most worst thing.....but I don't care either....
Rameez Suhail (2 months ago)
Man.... Womens in this video is Beautiful than your video....
#It's Kitty-55 (2 months ago)
I just ask "what your full name" when I don't know some ones name.😂😂😂😂😂😂
S m (2 months ago)
What kind of attire to Ware by Muslim girls(mostly v should be in black burqua) to meet a person(formal)at very first time.
Sri Sri (2 months ago)
eye contact
Health Extra (2 months ago)
laughting without a reason! (free bonus)
joshua limpahan (2 months ago)
Lolita 😂
NIDO SILVERIO (2 months ago)
WE SHOULD SMELL GOOD, ALWAYS =)))

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