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12 Things That Ruin a First Impression Immediately

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Scientists have proven that we form our first impression about someone within the first 7 seconds of meeting them, and 55% of the first impression is based on appearance. Pay attention to 12 common things you should avoid not to ruin the first impression. In his research, psychologist William F. Chaplin found that people with a weak handshake are instantly judged as being shy, anxious, uninterested, or even completely incompetent. If you place your hands on the table, don’t squeeze them too tight or lay them flat with your palms down. This makes people feel like you want to control them. Also, don’t forget about the role that culture plays here. A 2007 study showed that people who maintain eye contact during a conversation are often seen as more confident, attentive, intelligent, and trustworthy. Try not to focus the conversation only on yourself and your issues. It’s always a good idea to be attentive to your conversation partner. Tapping can indicate nervousness, irritation, or impatience. People might even think that you’re purposely trying to irritate others or draw attention to yourself. And while cracking your knuckles can help relieve stress, it’s one of the most annoying sounds according to a survey by The New York Times. A study from the University of Essex showed that even just having one’s phone on the table next to them reduces a conversation’s quality and the participants’ engagement. So leave it in your bag or in your pocket. Running late to a meeting with people you don’t know or have a formal relationship with will shed a guaranteed negative light on you. You’ll seem like an unreliable and unorganized person that doesn’t respect people enough to value their time. Music: About That Oldie Vibe Tracks Josefina Quincas Moreira Merengue de Limon Quincas Moreira Pink Lemonade Silent Partner https://www.youtube.com/audiolibrary/music TIMESTAMPS A weak handshake 0:38 Keeping your hands in the wrong position 1:25 Chewing gum 2:15 Avoiding eye-contact 3:01 Playing with your hair 3:41 Picking the wrong conversation topics 4:25 Invading someone’s personal space 5:07 Making distracting noises 5:49 Constantly checking your phone 6:34 Forgetting people’s names 7:23 Being late 8:00 The wrong attire 8:47 SUMMARY -If you wanna give the right impression of confidence and capability, remember to grip the other person’s hand firmly and for no longer than 2 seconds. -Put your hands on your lap if you want, but never keep them in your pockets because this gives the impression that you’re hiding something. -Chewing on gum makes you look immature, self-centered, and somewhat low-brow. -Don't be afraid to lock eyes with another person from time to time instead of constantly looking around, especially when you meet them for the first time. -If you tend to play with your hair when you’re nervous, try to kick this habit, you could be sending them the wrong message. -Play it safe and avoid the general “taboo” topics out there. They include health problems, money, religion, politics, or personal problems and complaints. -When it comes to meeting someone for the first time, keep a minimum of 4 feet between the two of you. -It can be nearly impossible to control nervous tapping, but you have to try, especially during important meetings or presentations. -Even if you’re just checking the time on your screen, it comes off as extremely impolite when you do it during a conversation. -Immediately repeate someone’s name after you’ve been introduced. In case you forget the name, just play it cool and try to avoid using phrases where you have to name the other person. -Leave your house in enough time so that you don’t have to run to your meeting. You’ll be all disheveled and unfocused, and that looks bad too. -If you’re meeting somebody for the very first time, again, especially in more formal situations, try to be conservative in your choice of clothing, be polished, and don’t use heavy perfume or tons of makeup. Subscribe to Bright Side : https://goo.gl/rQTJZz ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Our Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brightside/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brightgram/ 5-Minute Crafts Youtube: https://www.goo.gl/8JVmuC ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- For more videos and articles visit: http://www.brightside.me/
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BRIGHT SIDE (3 months ago)
TIMESTAMPS A weak handshake 0:38 Keeping your hands in the wrong position 1:25 Chewing gum 2:15 Avoiding eye-contact 3:01 Playing with your hair 3:41 Picking the wrong conversation topics 4:25 Invading someone’s personal space 5:07 Making distracting noises 5:49 Constantly checking your phone 6:34 Forgetting people’s names 7:23 Being late 8:00 The wrong attire 8:47
beholder2012 (1 month ago)
Farting 9:16
Xheneta Jetishi (1 month ago)
Laughing too much, nor being too official (serious). Asking questions, not talking about your self all the time. When they have been in too many similar situations as you, you don't need to always tell them you had. Only once or twice. These helps me make new friends, when I am interested to be their friend, and then I learn a lot about their experiences and mistakes, so I don't have to make the same mistake they did.
Abdelrahman Khaled (1 month ago)
Thanks, the handshake is better left as the other person's decision if he likes more than 2 seconds, until he pulls back. As some people like long and warm handshakes, aside from etiquette.
S S (1 month ago)
for me these features is true but, say during a job interview for example, it's true for both the potential employee and the potential employer
Gullyman (1 month ago)
Kim Ket (2 days ago)
I heard that when we greet, we should keep hands for a while but not shake them up and down.
Adam Publiczny (2 days ago)
90% of recruiters are 25-30 y.o. women. Picking-up girls skills are therefore very important. Men not good at approaching women are doomed.
Danman XD (3 days ago)
Does this count as cheating?
dessius415 (3 days ago)
Apparently it's really terrible to be seen as anxious. We should rethink that. How dare you suffer from involuntary nerves! It's not as if someone WANTS to be a nervous mess. Cut them a break. They are already present and trying.
Cjlovesyou (3 days ago)
Shake hands and hugs are the best .😉
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Lizza s (7 days ago)
Uhhhh bad breath #1
Wajid A K Nazar (7 days ago)
C.S.15 gaming studio (7 days ago)
Your video so amazing brother
Gary Lim (9 days ago)
First impression is the way they talk and sense of humor. :)
bill091086 (9 days ago)
Sneeze really sloppy into your right hand, then shake hands immediately afterwards without missing a beat! 😂😂😂
bill091086 (9 days ago)
Seems every time I take a leak in public with light pants on the last drops land on the front of the pants. Sometimes really bad. Wonder if that gives a bad impression?
Poetry's Initial (10 days ago)
I get angry when people interrupt me when I'm talking. It's like they don't care what I have to say or they just don't want to hear me speak. It ticks me off
Binth shereef (11 days ago)
Smile is also important
سعيد حسن (18 days ago)
It is not allowed for a muslim woman to greet a muslim man by shaking hands (one to whom he/she is not related). There for, Western societies should respect this muslim teachings of their religion. Because our Prophet peace be upon him said "‘If one of you were to be struck in the head with an iron needle, it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman he is not allowed to.” (Reported by al-Tabaraani; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045)."
Muhad Disa (18 days ago)
Smiling 😊 is the most attractive impressions.
Aki Scott (22 days ago)
PERSONAL SPACE...some people don't understand that!🙄
MorganandDietCoke (22 days ago)
Bad Breath
April Goodenough (24 days ago)
Dirty finger nails. Very important on an interview. This represents bad hygiene.
Anisha Biswas (25 days ago)
Yam Roka Magar (25 days ago)
Jhorle...thanks for advisable video.
Cindy Martinez (25 days ago)
My middle school class has enjoyed this video. They suggested that some of the things that can ruin a first impression are: behaviors such as tone of voice, eye rolling, and fidgeting.
Omprakash Maddheshiya (26 days ago)
Very nice video.thank you soooooo much
mitchell arita (26 days ago)
I don't do any of these things, does that mean i give off good first impressions?
Refuse to talk
world thinking (27 days ago)
Important things is to not layer to who you meet in first time
that one kid (28 days ago)
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akhil. s (28 days ago)
I used to do all these and I am the one who quit the job & they really don't want me to leave
David Grim (29 days ago)
You have to be careful of the invading personal space one if you deal with foreign cultures a lot as not every culture has the same sense of personal space.
Claudinet Conrado (29 days ago)
yes the thing of the cell phones its so off!!!
Jaspreet Kaur Sidhu (29 days ago)
thanks for this video
Sel in (29 days ago)
5:27 G.W Bush & Angela Merkel !
Gyorgy Gattyany (1 month ago)
Can I breath ?
Gupta Amit (25 days ago)
Gyorgy Gattyany 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 seriously
Broom Broom (1 month ago)
Yes, totally agree with the content. I think in the real like, the handshake is the most important thing as the first impression comes the crucial one. Great Job!
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Asif Kamoka (1 month ago)
nice information
dubreil07 (1 month ago)
Number 3 haunts me
Lion Fish (1 month ago)
Basically be a robot
Teman Jakarta (1 month ago)
be yourself! its the best way i reckon..
Denis Maganga (1 month ago)
waaaaaaaaaooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! its very amaizing
Krombopulos Michael (1 month ago)
So basically don't have social anxiety? I do almost all of these things.
dhanoj bandara (1 month ago)
I have a beard,not just a beard, it's a long beard what will be the situation in your opinion?
Elane Brazil (1 month ago)
If an interviewer gives you a weak handshake they must not be interested...
Eduno Eduno (1 month ago)
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Everything Random (1 month ago)
I wonder if some of you can visit my channel too for a laugh,thanks in advance
Preeti S. (1 month ago)
Who said putting you hands under table is not good manner in India?
Jesse Saunders (1 month ago)
"That is what Therapists are for..." Priceless! X'D
I love it.
Ekaterina Isaeva (1 month ago)
Dirty and messy hair
Rijo m (1 month ago)
Be yourself thats it
Lanie Nedia (1 month ago)
Playing with hair is signed of flirting 😂
tobi kazim (1 month ago)
Having to sweat profusely under your armpit till the extent that it shows.
FullFledged2010 (1 month ago)
If someone judges me on my handshake than that person isn't worth my time...
PRANJALI GUPTA (1 month ago)
Nice video
You& Art (1 month ago)
Afro Prince (1 month ago)
Constantly playing with your hair doesn’t make me think a girls flirting , I just assume she has bad dandruff
Marc M240 (1 month ago)
One thing is : giving lessons to other without knowing them.
Elvira Arriaga (1 month ago)
Leave me alone
Riana Krista Mandia (1 month ago)
I meet a lot of people everyday on my job and I just can't stand someone who's not responding appropriately to my decent questions. Its my job to ask you, please give me the proper answer.
ASHNA ANIFER (1 month ago)
Sometimes, joking with a new person can ruin the first impression.
R Y (1 month ago)
People actually do these things?, is common sense . I don’t chew gum, but I do leave it under my tongue . Not feeling the 666 hand sign at the beginning.
Rohith Maddina (1 month ago)
Valuable information bro
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delagrazia (1 month ago)
bs bs bs ." dont talk this " " dont do that" nonsense
Tina Thompson (1 month ago)
Infotainment Hub (1 month ago)
*Eye Contact.* 👀
GreninjaGamer gamer (1 month ago)
a very bad thing is when people that want you to buy something all the time talk only about it every word is about it so it is just wrong and it annoys me and another thing is when they constantly ask: will you buy it? will you buy it? will you buy it? that is SUPER WRONG. Im done here
Bhallu Rajesh (1 month ago)
why you are rejected in Microsoft interview ?your performance is very nice...
Dream Cars (1 month ago)
when you started the phone thing, i unlocked mine immdtly ;)
Mr. Luke (1 month ago)
body odor, bad breath, too much perfume
Sana Khan (1 month ago)
man4ela8 (1 month ago)
This is absolute disagree.. don’t be fake be real that’s more than enough
C Y? (1 month ago)
This is a very helpful video - for preteens! 👎
Loneranger (1 month ago)
First impressions are supposed to be a glimpse into what someone is like, not a final call to who he or she truly is. Don’t let a first impression be the guiding point to someone's overall demeanor. Everyone deserves more than just an initial judgment call.
Basic Education (1 month ago)
Many of the things share by you people based on common sense but many of us ignore these tips or due to their careless attitude so they loose. However, interesting tips share by you. Thanks
S S (1 month ago)
once I interviewed a 21 year old guy, a very attractive and apparently fit for the job, who started smelling his own shoes at the end of the interview. I was quite diplomatic but I let him understand he'd better leave and forget about the job....people are strange, aren't they? ahahahah!!!
Jennifer 20 (1 month ago)
Saying the word um or em
the Lone Wolf (1 month ago)
Now I have to buy a tape......... .... so that I can measure 4 feet.🤣
Listening is best practice for creating sustainable relationship. If you are good listener then one day you will be best enterprenuer.
Andy Fate (1 month ago)
Digging nose. Lol
The Kraemer (1 month ago)
Nothing turns me off more than a damp limp handshake. And the extra long hand hold is just creepy.
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Dan (1 month ago)
Chewing gum? Never do it. If you have to chew gum make sure that no one can ever see you doing it. It's the equivalent of scratching your crotch in public. I
Sirius Lee (1 month ago)
People who receive calls and talk on their phones in a Dr.s office or restaurant, or professional building , so rude . Can't stand it when people are late .
Goggarin1991 (1 month ago)
i don't even make first impressions, i'm to slow for that.
Kathleen LeMaire (1 month ago)
Bad breath, body odor, and yellow teeth are always and impression killer too.
UFO GTSSRT (1 month ago)
This video forgot to mention that ethnic background and skin color (No dis) can effect a persons title and paycheck and how it makes everyone very uncomfortable when someone is all of a sudden proud to be ghetto after the fact that they have already passed their job interview, from seemingly to be decent and well cultured. Lol
Evan Gelist (1 month ago)
Clint Eastwood's instructions to Clyde in every which way but lose "No spitting, farting or picking your arse" make that nose and he's on to something.
Creative 1 (1 month ago)
Bad breath?
satish kumar (1 month ago)
dont bend too much with hr if we have best quality skills nobody in this world stops us
Triple SK (1 month ago)
I think body language might speak but it's to imp😐
Todd Desiato (1 month ago)
Another way to make a good first immpression is to not take a call if your phone rings after you have just met someone and are talking to them in person.
Anil Jain (1 month ago)
The topic of this video gives more importance to the other's impression of you than your own worth! When someone spends lifetime trying to impress others, one finds out that it was not a wise thing to do. People are going to drop you at the first sign of your weakness. Why waste time to impress them?
Johanna H Rivera (1 month ago)
Well they are right. Your whole self says everything about you.
dsauce223 (1 month ago)
I love it when girls play with their hair. HIRED!!! :-)
James Ryzlot (1 month ago)
A weak handshake can and IS a sign of arthritis. Some of those hearty shakers cause pain to older people. JR
James Ryzlot (1 month ago)
BOYCOTT all yoo-toob sponsors until YT stops censoring free speech based on arbitrary unpublished "rules" Let sponsors know you will NEVER buy or support their products JR

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